The Blues Listening Style
Ever wondered, why you are so misunderstood by some people and yet others seem to hear you loud and clear?
Ever get the feeling that people are listening to what you are saying, but they aren’t really hearing you?
In the same way that we interpret visual information through our own unique lens, the same can be said for the way we listen, and the Blue Personality types have their own unique way of listening.
To listen fully means to pay close attention to what is being said beneath the words. You listen not only to the ‘music,’ but to the essence of the person speaking. You listen not only for what someone knows, but for what he or she is. Ears operate at the speed of sound, which is far slower than the speed of light the eyes take in. Generative listening is the art of developing deeper silences in yourself, so you can slow our mind’s hearing to your ears’ natural speed, and hear beneath the words to their meaning.”
Blue – Focus on the meaning behind the message
If you relate to the Blue True Colors Personality type, during a conversation you focus on the meaning behind the message. For you, listening is a full body experience as you evaluate what you see, hear and how you feel about what you are hearing.
But there’s an order to the way you listen – first your evaluate the person speaking, then you consider the message. Establishing a relationship with the speaker is paramount for you. Once you have assessed the speaker, i.e., listened for some type of alignment between what they are saying and what you value, only then will you consider how you feel about the message.
Blue – Listen with all their senses
Because you listen with all of your senses, you are very good at noticing the body language of others and you may think that that everyone else has the same ability. This ability can sometimes cause you to take on responsibilities from a place of ‘obligation’ rather than an honest desire to be of service.