The Blue Personality at work
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True Colors is a model for understanding yourself and others based on your personality temperament. The colors of Blue, Green, Orange, and Gold are used to differentiate the four central personality styles of True Colors.
Just because I’m compassionate and care about how other people feel doesn’t mean I can’t be an effective contributor at work, or does it?
People love to make assumptions, especially when it comes to others. For example, if an employee appears too concerned about the wellbeing of others we might label her a busy body and assume she lacks focus, while another who is much more withdrawn is deemed to be lacking emotional intelligence.
Making assumptions and labeling comes naturally to us, it’s how we make sense of our lives and experiences. However, the problem with labeling others is that it affects our interactions.
That’s why participating in a True Colors workshop is so insightful, it gives us a chance to learn about the strengths, motivations and communication styles of all four True Colors personality types – Green, Blue, Gold and Orange.
Successful people know who they are and what their True Colors are… when you know what your core values and needs are and feel good about them; you can perform at your highest potential in every area of life. And when you share a working, mutual understanding of other’ core values and needs, you have the basis to communicate, motivate, and achieve common goals with utmost dignity, efficacy, and mutual respect.” Don Lowry, creator of True Colors.
About True Colors – Blue
People who relate to Trues Colors – Blue are motivated by their underlying values which include honesty, sincerity, compassion and team work, to name a few.
|Blue see themselves as:
||Others Label them:
If you don’t relate to the way True Colors – Blue see themselves and find yourself labeling others as described here, your personality type is likely one of the other True Colors (Green, Orange, Gold),
So, to give you further insight into how all the True Colors Types, think and interact, I’ll introduce you to Rachel, Stephen, Grace and Bob in a series of articles that focus on one True Color at a time.
Meet Grace (a True Colors – Blue):
In the previous article, we learned how Bob, a True Colors – Green felt about his meeting with Grace. Now let’s look at the scenario from her perspective.
Grace’s supervisor Bob, asked her to present her final draft of a report that’s due in a few days. She feels good about the work her team has done, but wants to let him know about one of her team members who has had some personal difficulties. Before she has a chance to finish, Bob abruptly cuts her off with a sarcastic remark. His tone causes her to feel incompetent and she doesn’t understand why he’s behaving this way – after all they are on same team.
She doesn’t know how to communicate her feelings when he treats her this way. If her thoughts were audible, we’d hear:
“I’m sure Bob is a great guy, but you wouldn’t know when he acts this way. He seems arrogant and without any feelings. I’m not sure I want to work on any other projects with him if this is how it’s going to be.”
Grace thinks that working with Bob is too uncomfortable because he is highly critical and may not share her work ethic. Her thoughts about his lack of compassion and appreciation are typical of a typical True Colors – Blue. Teamwork, concern for others and compassion are strongly held values of the True Colors – Blue – but Bob doesn’t get that.
However, Grace’s thoughts also reflect her lack of appreciation for Bob’s True Colors type. If she understood him better she might be able to manage her feelings and find a way to work more effectively with him.
Next time, in the final article in this series, Rachel, Stephen, Bob and Grace come together in a True Colors Workshop where they’ll learn the importance of appreciating their differences and strengths, and the attributes they all bring to their workplace.
In the meantime, keep noticing all the different ways you interpret and label other people’s actions or what you hear them say. Then, before you make assumptions about what’s going on, say to them..
“I notice (fill in the blank) what’s that about?
By stating the facts without interpretation or labeling you accomplish two things:
- You eliminate any judgments or anxiety you might be feeling and
- You’ve made the other person aware of a behavior they may not be conscious of.
You can also try this self-reflection exercise. For example: Notice what annoys you about other people. What things do they do or say that triggers a response in you? What crosses your mind? How do you feel when you are annoyed? How does feeling annoyed change your behavior?
All four True Colors communicate their thoughts and feelings with more than their words. By the end of this series of articles, all four True Colors Types will come together to learn about each other. I hope this sheds some insight into your True Colors too.